The Navy SEALs

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

"We are reminded that we are fortunate to have Americans who dedicate their lives to protecting ours," President Obama said today. "We may not always know their names, we may not always know their stories, but they are there every day on the front lines of freedom and we are truly blessed." 

There is nothing like a man in uniform. What’s even sexier is a man who is brave, courageous and mentally capable of performing such dangerous missions. Man we don’t give these men the real props they deserve. What sets these men apart from other men or other men in the military is most men couldn’t do this. Let’s keep it 100; most men couldn’t do this. I started thinking are these special elite forces men married; if so who could tolerate being married to one of these men? Personally I would age before my years in worry. I would be the type of wife hiding in the back of hummers and shit with my black face paint on in my camouflage gear and timberland boots ready to kick some ass. My motto would “baby if you going I’m going”. See he would have to divorce me because he would get tired of having to call a code PWA (psycho wife alert) every time he was about to go on a secret mission. I couldn’t handle it, kudos to the wives that do if there are any. I bet these men are not married? Since we rarely or never learn the identity of these men I guess we will never know that either. Anywho, wanted to give a BIG SHOUT OUT to our Navy Seals for all their secret missions known and unknown and their fearless dedication to our country. This country has many issues but it is the best country in the world.

Angie


http://abcnews.go.com/US/osama-bin-laden-dead-navy-seal-team-responsible/story?id=13509739&page=2


U.S. Navy Sea, Air and Land Teams, commonly known as SEAL Teams, are the best of the best. Their creed is to be "a special breed of warrior ready to answer our nation's call."


SEAL Team Six, the "Naval Special Warfare Development Group," was the main force involved in Sunday's firefight.


The daring operation began when two U.S. helicopters flew in low from Afghanistan and swept into the compound where Osama bin Laden was thought to be hiding late Sunday night Pakistan time, or Sunday afternoon Washington time. Thirty to 40 U.S. Navy SEALs disembarked from the helicopters as soon as they were in position and stormed the compound


These men have done all of this in anonymity. It is standard procedure never to identify members of Team Six.


"A lot of those missions -- a majority of those missions -- are ones that the public will never know about... and that's a good thing," Smith said.


Navy SEALs toil in the dark of night, tasked with the most daring, dangerous and important missions. To become a SEAL, those men completed some of the most brutal training regimens ever devised, designed to push the boundaries of even the most able service members. Only one third of recruits eventually become SEALs.


"You have to be able to endure a lot of physical pain and sometimes emotional pain, and you just have to dig deep. It's an elite organization and so it can't be for everybody," said Paul Tharp, master chief of the Naval Special Warfare Preparatory School and a SEAL for 24 years.


"What sets SEALs apart is our diversity in terms of the environments in which we operate," said Smith, also a SEAL for 24 years. "We operate at 10,000 feet in the Hindu Kush Mountains. We operate in desert regions in Iraq and elsewhere. We operate in jungles throughout the world."


As of 2009, there were 2,500 active duty SEALs. With the expanding war on terror and missions in 30 countries, the Navy needs more, but finding young men who can meet the SEALs' standards is a challenge.


"We are not looking for cocky kids," said Senior Chief Hans Garcia, a SEAL recruiter. "The perfect person would be a candidate who is remarkably physically fit, but is pretty humble, an analytical thinker, a problem solver -- someone who is very value-oriented, patriotic, puts service above self."


ABC News' BRIAN ROSS (@brianross) , JAKE TAPPER (@jaketapper) , RICHARD ESPOSITO, ALICE MAGGIN and NICK SCHIFRIN (@nickschifrin) contributed to this report.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:32 AM

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Better with Age

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Is it me or doesn’t it seem like the older you get the more your able to let go. It seems like when I get upset, disappointed, down or hurt about something I don’t hold onto it very long. The next day I’m back to being positive and feeling like whatever! What is that called? Is it that self defense mechanism called Denial? Is it strength generated through years of getting to know and love yourself and building confidence in your worth or purpose on earth? Is it that I’ve become wiser understanding some things never change; other things are constantly changing and you either Adapt, Evolve or get the Fuck out the way. It’s life! Nothing or know one should make you break down so low that you forget your God giving right to Live, to Feel, to Absorb and to Grow. Nothing is that bad. So yeah, I think I’m just getting wiser and stronger. It feels good to be able to bounce back from anything and still feel good about myself and people.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 12:53 PM

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My 4 Year Old

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

My 4 year old is a technical genius. This boy since the age of 2 (no exaggeration) has been able to operate a computer, go on the internet, watch youtube videos, listen to music, etc. Now he knows how to operate a laptop without a mouse I might add while it sits on his lap. He is really into playing internet games and told his Mom the other day to wait his game was downloading! Don't give him a cell phone or blackberry he knows how to take pics, play your music and everything. Kids these days come out as adults, just freaky. I don't know if this boy will be a technical genius or a Kung Fu master. He is exceptionally athletic and knows how to do all those complicated martial arts flips and jumps. The only thing that worries me about him is he still believes superhero's are real but I guess at the age of 4 that is be expected. He told me one day that if a bad man came in the house he wouldn't hide like we try to teach him but he would fight him cause he got super powers. He argued me up and down and tried to get me to feel the wolverine nails that was inside his fingertips. That boy is something else.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:41 AM

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Is There a Flat Butt Anonymous?

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

I’ve been doing really good going to the gym. I haven’t giving it up and actually it’s rather addictive. Brian the sales/trainer man I met when I first went to the gym is the only person in this world that knows all of my body measurements. He weighed me, measured my thighs, calves, arms, hips, waist, chest, shoulders, neck, arm length, tested my BMI and all that good stuff. Sometimes when I go in to the gym Brian is busy so I work out on my own, besides I don’t pay to get training everyday so I try not to bother them too much. However, some days when I see Brian has a moment I will ask him to run me through a program. The first thing he always ask is did I work my gluts. I would say no (at first to be honest I didn’t even know what gluts were) and he would take me to a machine and have me do some reps on that. Then one day it dawned on me; Brian must think I have a FLAT ASS.  Because that’s the first thing he asks all the time; “did you work your gluts”? I should have been offended but Brian is too beautiful to be mad at for more than a second. Besides; all I could do was laugh thinking about my sister Toni and all the comments she would make. But hey, I’m working my gluts and I think I see progress.  So Toni, stop laughing.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:26 AM

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Fake Work Associates Part II

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

I work with a person who can not stand her boss. I mean she really detest her boss. But you would never know it. She hides her dislike of her boss like an academy award actress. I try to be there for her and listen to her gripes, complaints and criticism. But it’s tiring me out now because as much as she complains about her boss she does so with no change. I always advise her to either suck it up because she needs the job or do something about it. Most of the time I try to get her to speak up to her boss and defend herself in a professional and intelligent way. But she never takes my advice all she does is constantly complain and complain.  I have come to the conclusion she is either a very weak individual who can not stand up for herself or her boss is not the evil bitch she portrays.

My co-worker also has a girlfriend across the hall in another department. For the longest I had to hear her complaining about this person. Then finally, they had a fallen out. Then she started revealing all the girl secrets. Then as high school as it sounds they made up a couple of months later because my co-worker reached out to her first via Facebook. Then it was back to more griping about her. Though I must admit lately not as much.  I guess they have really healed all those wounds or she is just wising up about running her mouth so much. 

I have come to the conclusion if this person can so easily treat her boss that she detests like she is the best boss ever and smile and hang out with the girl across the hall that gets on her last nerve; how does she really feel about me? How can you completely trust someone like that? When you see how fake they are to others they profess not to like or hate?

Well the answer is you can’t. That’s why I always have my guard up with her. Plus sometimes she goes through phases like she has a problem with me. I know I have done nothing to offend her so all I do is keep to myself and wait for her to warm up to me again. Because of this wishy-washy attitude and my observation of her fake treatment towards others I remain pleasant when she is speaking to me and continue to be a confidant but I never allow myself to trust her fully. All I can do is what I’ve been doing remain professional, friendly and nice no matter what. At the end of the day I leave work behind me anyway. I happen to appreciate and respect my boss fully but I leave him and everyone else I work with at the office, including her. Besides how she conducts herself doesn’t mean I have to conduct myself in the same manner.  Life is too short to be worrying about fake work associates!

I feel better for sharing!.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:55 PM

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To Be, or Not to Be, "Gay" That Is The Question

Monday, April 19, 2010

“To be, or not to be, that is the question” is one of Shakespeare most famous quotations from the play Hamlet. The soliloquy spoken in the play by Prince Hamlet is complex with various interpretations and one of the most studied literary works ever. To be gay or not to be gay is just as complex. What makes a person gay? Are you born gay or become gay through trauma, environment or choice?

I find it difficult to believe people are born gay. God is not capable of sin or enticing sin the bible teaches us. So why would he create someone born with a sin that could damn them to eternal hell? Personally, I believe people either become gay due to abuse or choice. Many will argue why would someone choice to be gay knowing all the drama they have to go through. I honestly can not explain the mental state or dysfunction of others. I think that choice to be gay is an individual choice and only that person knows in their heart why they have become that way. Many want to believe they are born gay because it gives them an excuse to rationalize and not change. Honestly, I am extremely grossed out at the thought of two grown ass men sweating, touching, kissing and sexing each other. It’s BUTT ASS nasty (literally). But hey, there choice is between them and God. Ultimately only God has final authority over someone eternal life or damnation so I may be deeply perplexed by the lifestyle and will never agree with it, but oh well.

My issue is with people, in particular men who are on the down low. But I will get to them last. Women that are gay or claim they are bisexual I just don’t get it. I MEAN I REALLY DO NOT GET IT! Excuse my French but I like D*** way too much. Keeping it 100, fingers and tongue can almost pass as substitutes but nothing takes the place of a D*** and not a fake plastic one. Strap-on’s won’t work for me. Women who are real women know exactly what I am talking about. I just love men. I love their smell, even when they smell musty (I mean a little musty not full blown WTF musty). I love his strength, his arms, back and legs; I just LOVE MEN. A woman can’t do ish for me. I see so many lesbian couples in Atlanta. Boy do they start young it’s not uncommon to see many girls in middle and high schools that are openly gay. Girls tend to come out earlier then boys and they are not ashamed in any way shape or form. But at least they come out and can be honest with their sexuality and choices.

For those men who are hiding behind a supposed or pretend girlfriend but you F*** men on the side. Please do women and the world a favor stop FOOLING YOURSELF! Men: if you like to F*** men up the butt or have your butt pounded you are GAY. You don’t want to accept it, that’s why you do women on the side, showcase girls to family and friends and even marry one but you’re GAY. I’m starting to become paranoid of these guys who claim they are metrosexual. Is metrosexual the new code word for on the down low? I’m leery of men who are always with the same guy friend who they call “my boy” or “partner”. Maybe I am too paranoid but these down low men are being discovered more and more and it’s actually very scary. They are putting men and women at a higher risk of HIV/Aids. Granted heterosexuals are HIV positive as well but men who F*** each other up the butt are more prone to catching HIV just because of the physical aspects of anal sex. Some of these men will selfishly have unprotected sex with the pretend girlfriends knowing what they are doing but don’t care. STOP THE MADNESS! If you must be in denial about being GAY at least use condoms. Better yet, why not pick one and stick with it; you’re gay or not gay; to be or not to be, that is the question?

Originally published Apr 19, 2010

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Predestination vs. Free Will

Do you believe that everything that happens to you was meant to be or already predestined? Beliefs in predestination are generally referred to as Calvinism or Reformed Theology. What is predestination: Predestination is a doctrine which teaches that God predetermined who would go to heaven and hell. It basically teaches that you were born without choices. All the events or actions you made from birth to death were already orchestrated by God. That also means all your sins were really not your fault but God’s will. Furthermore, it states man is not held accountable for his sin and God has already chosen which people will be saved and which will be damned.

Do you believe that where you are right now in your life is a consequence of your own choices possibly altered through prayer, God steering you in the right direction or altering your life when you call on him to do so. If you believe that then you believe in “Free Will”. What is Free Will: Free will teaches that when presented with the facts of God’s plan for salvation that every individual person has a choice to make, to either accept or reject God’s gift of salvation. It basically teaches that you were born with the gift of making your own choices. That also means you are accountable for all your sins.

I’m a believer in Free Will. In the beginning God created man and “God saw all that he had made, and it was very good”. Genesis 1:31. God’s PREDETERMINED PLAN was to create man in his own image with a free will to fellowship with him. Adam CHOSE to bite the forbidden fruit which bought sin into the world. God did not cause Adam to disobey Him; otherwise man wouldn’t have been created in God’s image. God is not capable of enticing us to sin nor would he want to. That would defeat the whole purpose of his creation. The Bible tells us that God hates sin and that sin can’t enter heaven. Solomon wrote: “This only have I found: God made mankind upright, but men have gone in search of many schemes”. Ecclesiastes 7:29

Stated even better, Josh McDowell had the following to say about creation, evil, and God’s love for us:
“The Scriptures make it plain that God did not create the world in the state in which it is now, but evil came as a result of the selfishness of man. The Bible says that God is a God of love and He desired to create a person and eventually a race that would love Him. But genuine love cannot exist unless freely given -- through free choice God allows us to accept His love or to reject it.

This choice made the possibility of evil a reality. When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, they did not choose something God created, but, by their choice, they brought evil into the world. God is neither evil nor did He create evil. Man brought evil upon himself by selfishly choosing his own way apart from God’s way”.

A consequence of having free will means bad things will happen as a result of living in a fallen world. In times of war, death, natural disasters, accidents, illnesses, loss of job or income and other calamities many flippantly use the expression “Everything happens for a reason” or “it’s God’s Will”. This is a convenient attempt to say man is not accountable for sin or destruction but God is. Yes, God allowed sin to enter the world due to Adam’s disobedience but he is not the creator or enticer of sin. “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.” James 1:12-14

Every person born into this world is the creator of his or her own destiny. Some have argued a statement such as that means God has no control or I am taking away God sovereignty or authority to rule over our lives. I argue, God can only rule over our lives if we CHOOSE so, even when we choose so we often fall or continue to sin. Yes, God is omniscient (he knows all) but just because he knows the choices we will make doesn’t mean he created those situations that make us have to choose. God is here for numerous reasons; one is to keep us on the path of righteousness. As the Bible states "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." Galatians 6:7-8. One element of the doctrine of Karma closely resembles the biblical passages of you reap what you sow. I describe the element as: "every act we commit, no matter how big, small, insignificant or significant creates a good or bad consequence. Those consequences create other good or bad acts and more consequences. Those good or bad consequences have led you to where you are today; it will determine where you will be tomorrow". You’re in the driver seat steering the path of your own destiny. Drive with caution! Be gentle with one another; try with all your might to avoid sin, listen to God daily, pray often and seek God in everything and EVERYONE you come in contact with. Be Blessed and stay humble!

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 6:17 PM

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Facebook Can Bring Out the Best, Deeply Passionate or Worst in Us

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Facebook can bring out the best, deeply passionate or worst in us; or some of us. I have seen good friends have knock down drag out verbal assaults against each other over politics and social issues, cousins heat up over family members, girlfriends accuse their men of lying, sisters bashing brothers, sons bashing mothers, girls blasting other girls for writing something on their man’s wall, men becoming jealous over something a guy said to his girl, etc, etc. This type of behavior can be irritating to the say the least. I used to always think why they do that so everybody can see?

Then my son posted some comments about me that were rather harsh and taken out of context in my opinion. It was a family dispute and should have stayed in the family. He has a tendency to act before he thinks. He gets that from me so I can relate but I wish he chose a different route to vent his anger. Of course I commented just in self defense, then my daughter commented and ripped him a new one, literally. [Side note: Men who try to date me always make comments about my 3 sons; like they are the one’s they have to impress. What they fail to realize is my daughter is the one to impress. She is so over-protective of me, its unreal. She don’t care who you are brother, father, auntie, cousin, etc. Say something about or disrespect her Momma and she will rip your head off, literally. She has always been a Mommy’s girl and will always be]. The comments going back and forth between my kids got ugly. I asked my daughter to erase one comment in particular but she refused. Can’t fault her too much for being stubborn she truly gets that from me. To make a long story short David deleted the post, thank God. It was too personal for others to see and my family is fine now. David apologized and has been nagging me to take him to his girlfriend house since yesterday, lol. That boy I tell ya! My kids are good kids. I have never really had major issues with any of them. I thank God I haven’t had to deal with gangs, drugs, criminal activity, jail time, or any of the other things some parents have to go through. I have a hard enough time dealing with my spoiled kids/young adults imagine if I had all that other stuff to deal with? I commend the parents who do have those issues to deal with and still continue to be there for their child, no matter what the age and try to see them through.

On the flip side because Facebook is such a highly personal social site you begin to feel deeply connected to others and when we hurt we reach out to those who may emphasize with us and hear our cries. It may be foolish to do but it is understandable. Facebook for many has become an extended family. My wish is don’t let it destroy families or friendships because of misunderstandings, difference of opinions or anger. If you’re bold enough to air your dirty laundry via Facebook then be humane enough to fix it in the same manner.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 12:56 PM

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Dooms Day, December 12, 2012 - Mother Nature A Beast!

Saturday, March 6, 2010

We all know about the present day "Dooms Day" Theory of December 21, 2012. This date is so fascinating because others and the Mayans, a great ancient society with vast knowledge of astrology and math, predicted the end of the world 1000's of years ago. The Mayan's predict an extraordinary event will occur called the Dark rift. The sun will align with the center of the milky way galaxy. This event only occurs every 26,000 years. Nostradamus, who prophecies have proven to be factual or come true predicts the same thing 1000's of years later. The exact date may differ but the month and year are December 2012. The Mayans predict the earth will be destroyed by earthquakes. The concern is why did they all get the exact (give a day or two)date. On the flip side opponents say December 21, 2012 was the end of the Mayan calendar and it would indicate a new beginning. Personally, I can't wait for Jesus return to take his children home. Many believe we are witnessing and living in the earth's final days. All we need to do is look at the signs: freaky weather, economic chaos, the vile and sadistic acts of men and women against our children and each other, the Sodom and Gomorrah of homosexuality, dysfunctional and corruption of politics, senseless killing and taking of life over clothes or you looked at me funny, wars, drought, famine, extreme poverty and people have become so personally empowered they truly believe they control their life vs. God.

I want to focus on the freaky weather or Mother Nature. Mother Nature has a huge arsenal of weapons to destroy. She can demolish us with earthquakes, hurricanes, tornado's, floods, tsunamis, rough or choppy seas, volcano's, blizzards, extreme heat, and drought. Below I have a list of some of the biggest or deadliest acts of Mother Nature in 200+ years. Scientist are still perplexed by all the strange happenings in the Bermuda triangle. Hurricanes seem to be more deadly this past century. A 26 foot tidal wave crashed into a cruise ship March 4 of this year killing 2. That's why I am afraid of being in deep waters. People have laughed at me say this but if I EVER GET BRAVE enough to go on a cruise. I will be wearing a life jacket 24/7. I will be dancing in my life jacket, using the bathroom in my life jacket, and showering in my life jacket, etc. The life jacket is not coming off, you can believe that.

Earthquakes are the scariest to me because they can happen so quick and anywhere and you can't hide from them. You can try to drive away from a hurricane or tornado. This year Earthquakes have recently struck Haiti on Feb 12; Japan Feb 26; and Chile the following day Feb 27.

NASA scientist say the earthquake in Chile may have shifted the earth axis which will shorten our days. That ties into the theory of we will eventually return to the ice age or we won't know summer from winter. Shorter days means less sun light, lesser sunlight means less time for crops to grow, etc. It appears we are presently living in times of great planet and environmental change. If our planet is still here 1000's of years from now this era we are living in will be the beginning of all that is yet to come.

This world is billions of years old and we don't know how God will destroy it; but it will be destroyed one day. I just hope if it's anytime soon or in your lifetime God finds you in prayer when he comes to call you home. In regards to December 21, 2012 "Dooms Day" Theory I will hold my opinion until December 22, 2011.

Place Date Disaster Loss of Life:
Barbados 10/16/1780 Hurricane 20,000-22,000
Calcutta, India 10/05/1864 Cyclone 70,000
Japan 06/15/1896 Tsunami 27,000
Galveston, TX 09/08/1900 Hurricane 6,000-8,000
San Francisco 04/18/1906 Earthquake 700-3,000
Hong Kong 09/18/1906 Typhoon 10,000
Haiyuan, China 12/16/1920 Earthquake 200,000-240,000
Japan 09/21/1934 Typhoon 4,000
Bengal, India 10/16/1942 Cyclone 40,000
Japan 09/27/1958 Typhoon 5,000
Chile 05/22/1960 Tsunami 1,500
East Pakistan 10/10/1960 Cyclone 6,000
East Pakistan 05/28/1963 Cyclone 22,000
Haiti & Cuba 10/02/1963 Hurricane 7,200
East Pakistan 05/11/1965 Cyclone 47,000
Karachi, Pakistan 12/15/1965 Cyclone 10,000
East Pakistan 11/12/1970 Cyclone 200,000
Orissa State, India 09/29/1971 Cyclone 10,000
Honduras 09/14/1974 Hurricane 8,000
Tangshan, China 07/27/1976 Earthquake 242,000
Philippines 08/23/1976 Tsunami 8,000
Pradesh, India 11/19/1977 Cyclone 20,000
Bangladesh, India 04/30/1991 Cyclone 131,000
Philippines 11/05/1991 Typhoon 3,000
Papua New Guinea 07/17/1998 Tsunami 2,200
Honduras, and others 10/26/1998 Hurricane 14,500
Orissa State, India 10/29/1999 Cyclone 9,573
Gujarat, India 01/26/2001 Earthquake 20,023
Sumatra, Indonesia 12/26/2004 Tsunami 230,000
Louisiana & MS 08/29/2005 Hurricane 1,800
Kashmir, Pakistan 10/08/2005 Earthquake 79,000
Bangladesh, India 11/15/2007 Cyclone 3,500
Yangon, Myanmar 05/03/2008 Cyclone 22,500
Princess of the Stars Ferry 06/21/2008 Typhoon 865 crew & passenger
Chile 02/27/2010 Earthquake 795
Spain 03/03/2010 Tidal Wave 2 on ship

Orignially posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 9:44 PM

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Will all the Real Narcissist Please Stand Up, Please Stand Up!

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

I was watching Paul Mooney latest comedy show the other day and an audience member blurted something out and Paul said “see that’s Oprah fault. She made people feel their important”. It was funny but very profound. Since the “Reign of Oprah” people have become more comfortable voicing their opinions when it comes to personal issues and self. I think that is a good thing and we all should value our self worth and opinions. However, when is being confident in your self expression narcissistic?

Have social networking sites, such as Facebook released the unrealized narcissistic beast in us all? What other venue is out there for you to focus on self? From posting your pics, posting your favorite inspirational quotes, showcasing poetry or other talents, broadcasting your kid’s excellent grades, posting what you ate for breakfast, displaying your political insight and much more. Don’t get me wrong I think Facebook is an excellent tool to reconnect with friends, possibly make new ones and share with others all those pics, videos and daily chores. But when does it become Narcissistic? Do you recognize anyone on Facebook who screams look at me you lower form of species or what I say should matter to you all and really mean that shit!

What is the definition of Narcissism:

Narcissism (närsĭs'ĭzəm), Freudian term, drawn from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a handsome young man sees his reflection in a pool of water and falls in love with it. Indicating an exclusive self-absorption. A degree of narcissism is considered normal, where an individual has a healthy self-regard and realistic aspirations. The condition becomes pathological, and diagnosable as a personality disorder, when it significantly impairs social functioning. An individual with narcissistic personality disorder tends to:

1. Harbor an exaggerated sense of his own self-importance, uniqueness and superiority
(e.g. exaggerates or flat out lies his you know what off about achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without any measure of true achievements).

2. He is often excessively occupied with fantasies about his own attributes and potential for success, and usually depends upon others for reinforcement of his self-image
(e.g. he daydreams about being successful and tends to live in that mindset instead of making it happen in reality. He has get rich quick schemes and tries to get others on board for encouragement and self glorification).

3. Requires excessive admiration

4. A narcissist tends to have difficulties maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships, stemming largely from a lack of empathy and a propensity for taking advantage of others in the interest of self-aggrandizement. It is often found in combination with antisocial personality disorder (e.g. many narcissist pretend to have empathy but basically if you go against their delusions of grandeur or it minimizes their self importance you will feel and witness the cold demeanor).

5. However, these attitudes and behaviors do not reflect true self-confidence. Instead, the attitudes conceal a deep sense of insecurity and a fragile self-esteem.

“A new study suggests that online social networking sites might be useful tools for detecting whether someone is narcissist.

We found that people who are narcissistic use Facebook in a self-promoting way that can be identified by others, said lead author Laura Buffardi, of the University of Georgia.

The researchers found that the number of Facebook friends and wall posts that individuals have on their profile pages correlates with narcissism (I think this should exclude celebrities. They are going to draw thousands of fans but I would argue most celebrities are narcissistic).

Buffardi said this is consistent with how narcissists behave in the real-world, with numerous yet shallow relationships. Narcissists are also more likely to choose glamorous, self-promoting pictures for their main profile photos, she said, while others are more likely to use snapshots”. http://psychcentral.com/news/2008/09/23/social-networking-ids-narcissism/2988.html

Don’t confuse Narcissist people with bully’s or some men who suffer from short man complex (sorry short men but I did say some short men not all). You know the guy who is short and has to walk, talk and stick his chest out to appear big so he won’t be looked down on. They have a tendency to overly compensate for areas they are lacking. The Narcissist is not always noticeable. Usually those closest too him know his true ways. To the outside world he is a cool guy; the best. When the Narcissist looks in the mirror he truly sees no flaws and if you point any out something is wrong with you. He is perfect after all! That’s why they lack empathy; how can they relate to someone who thinks they are equal to everyone else?

Well, what does all this mean? Nothing really I just thought it was interesting and wanted to share. I bet we all know someone who is truly narcissistic. The sad thing is they don’t realize it. So to all the narcissistic people out there you are the absolute best and I love the hell out of your perfect ass. I don’t know what I would do without you. To everyone else, Rock on Dudes!

Orignially posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 8:46 PM

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The Walk

Monday, January 18, 2010

I woke up this morning from a dream that was profound in many ways. I dreamt I was with my sisters and we were all in a parking garage. I guess about to go to some event or something. Then this guy (I know the guy but can’t think of his name. He grew up in Perryman and might I add was fine as hell in my dream) walks up and stood beside me in a way that only a man you were involved with would stand. I remember feeling uncomfortable because my sister Roz was walking up. I was thinking why is he standing so close with his arm around me? Didn’t he and Roz used to mess around a long time ago or maybe they were just really good friends? I couldn’t remember but just in case I tried to sneakily move away from his grip around my waist and he gently held on. Roz approached us and they hugged and chatted for a minute. She didn’t seem to think anything was out of the ordinary.


Then he looks at me as we all are walking off to go wherever we where going and says “walk directly behind me”. The whole time in my dream I’m confused about what the hell is going on but I follow his lead anyway. We start off walking at a swift pace and the strange thing is the guy has now changed into someone else. He is no longer the guy from Perryman. I know this because I recognize how this other man looks from behind. The other strange thing is he is only the other guy when I’m walking behind him. Whenever he turns to speak he becomes the guy from Perryman again. Twice he turns around during our swift walk and looks back at me and says “walk directly behind me; you keep going off to the left a little bit”. Like an obedient child I tried my best to follow his instructions. The walk sped up to a quick trot and I was impressed with how well I was keeping up. Then it sped up more and he didn’t have to instruct me anymore. Our steps were completely in the same rhythm even though he awkwardly had his hand behind his back holding on to mine. Once the stairs came into view I noticed he eased up a little bit and our quick trot turned back into a swift walk. As if he knew he had to slow it down; maybe I couldn’t handle going up those steps that fast and he was being protective. While going up the steps he turned to look back at me and said are you ok? At this point the man who turned to speak to me was no longer the guy from Perryman but the guy who I was running with the whole time. I looked up and smiled with pride because I was keeping up, I was walking behind and we were in sync. It felt great.


I think I know what this dream was trying to teach me. I need to allow my partner (or my future partner) more ability to lead while trusting he won’t let me fall. Giving up your power or control and allowing someone else to lead you is a scary thing. I just don’t know why it was one man doing all the talking (until the very end) and another man I was walking with? Any ideas? Let me know what you think.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:19 AM

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Haiti & Gratitude

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Haiti like most nations has endured its fair share of tragedies. The U.S. was also discovered by Christopher Columbus (supposedly), Europeans came and wiped out our Natives as well. This country has dealt with Slavery, civil rights and present day racism. In spite of all that I feel so lucky today to be in the USA. Can you imagine a natural disaster occurring in your hometown and not seeing police, ambulance or state vehicles driving around seeking to assist? Yes, Katrina happened and the way it was handled was not the best and we all know of the horror stories. But at least there were hospitals open and staff available to assist the injured and try to save lives that day. You had people letting them know to go to the Dome for shelter, acts were taken to try and control the situation. You had officials driving around in boats rescuing people off of rooftops and looking for survivors. The Haitians have no one. There government was basically non- existent before this happened. All they have is themselves armed with shovels digging through rumble trying to find survivors and save lives. I can’t even watch these events unfold on TV. My heart is too heavy.


I’m thinking about the aftermath. First it’s going to take them a lot longer to rebuild due to the extreme poverty there (unless other countries really step up to the plate). Even if they rebuild what are they re-building too? Will there environment, economy or situation improve? Will there no longer be child slaves sold into servitude from one poor family to another for hard labor and sexual favors? Haiti like other unfortunate and extremely poor or violent regions (like in some parts of Africa) endures so much hardship. We complain if our cable goes out or the internet is running slow. We lash out at each other over material things; we hate for no reason, don’t love out of fear and take way too much for granted. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. Be grateful for what you have even if you don’t think its enough. It’s far better than traveling 100’s of miles to reach a refugee camp that has no clean water but maybe a few huts you could sleep under with dozens of others, or walking past your 6 year old daughter pan handling to foreigners hopefully to bring home $2. Many people think their life belongs to them. I beg to differ; your life belongs to everyone; from the stranger you meet on the corner, family, neighbors and friends. God put us on earth to serve one another not to live for ourselves. We all will die. I would at least like to say before I take my last breathe that I actually lived and was good to somebody; not just myself.


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In 1492 Christopher Columbus discovered Haiti. The Spaniards came in, took over and basically annihilated the Taino Amerindians, the natives of Haiti within 25 years. Later, in 1697 after Spain fought with France the French conquered and took possession of Haiti.


Haiti thrived economically and became the wealthiest in the Caribbean but only through the heavy importation of African slaves. In the late 18th century, Haiti’s nearly ½ million slaves revolted under Toussaint L’overture becoming the first black republic to declare independence in 1804. The only black led nation in the world whose independence was won through a successful slave rebellion.
Haiti is a largely Christian country, with Roman Catholicism professed by 80% of Haitians. One of Haiti’s two official languages is French, the principal written, spoken and administratively authorized language. The Second is the recent Haitian Creole spoken by the entire Haitian population. Haitian Creole is a French based language with African, Spanish and the native, Taino influences. A huge portion of the population also speaks Spanish.


Present day Haiti is the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere with 80% of the population living under the poverty line. Of Haiti's 8.7 million inhabitants, the literacy rate of 65.9% is the lowest in the region. Haiti counts 15,200 primary schools, of which 90% are non-public and managed by the communities, religious organizations or NGOs. Haiti has dealt with 32 coups and a tragic political system built on corruption, racism and greed that have not improved since its discovery by Christopher Columbus in 1492.

Just in the 21st century Haiti has endured natural catastrophes' to include this week's 7.0 earthquake four
tropical hurricanes in 2008, killer storms in 2004 and 2005, floods in 2002, 2003, 206 and 2007.

Orginally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 6:22 PM

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How Do You Pick Up the Threads of An Old Life

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart you begin to understand. There is no going back. There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep. That have taken hold (Script from Lord of the Rings: Return of the King).


Yesterday I posted the above quote on Facebook and received some comments. Most people instantly took it as I was down about something and sought to comfort me. However, the quote gives me strength and guidance (but I must admit I find it very sad). I often pull it out and read it just to snap me back into reality. I've been guilty of making excuses for men and sometimes fantasize instead of keeping it real. When dealing with heartache or disappointment it can be hard to let go of the dream or vision you presented in your own mind of what you and that man/woman could have been. Then reality kicks in and you either face what’s real or continue on with the dream. The quote helps me face what’s real and fight against the true romantic in me whispering to still believe and keep hoping.


When does that time come to completely give up hope that they may come to their senses and try to make the wrong things right? How long do you give him/her to reach out to you to show they actually give a damn about your feelings? I guess every situation is different. But, if you had a big disagreement or argument with your lover and have made attempts to try and solve the issue and more than 3 days go by without them reaching out to you than they don’t really care about the relationship or they have completely given up on you. How could you not reach out to your lover that you have feelings for knowing they could be hurting and do nothing? It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong what matters is you care enough to figure it out and set the wrong things right. If you want to believe that he/she is just too proud, has a big ego or is waiting for you to make the first move; then you are being delusional and still living in the dream and not reality. What you are doing is making excuses for their lack of sensitivity, maturity and poor communication skills. The other obvious painful reality is to accept the fact that they just wasn’t into you like you thought. Some people look for a conflict to give them a reason to turn there back and never be heard from again vs. telling you honestly they just don’t want you like that. Personally, I have abandonment issues and I’d rather be rejected than abandoned. When a lover walks away after feelings are involved without a word; that’s abandonment. I just think we deserve better than that. But, hey "Angela's Logic" could be wrong; there is always an exception to my rules?


Deal with the rejection or abandonment but don’t let it keep you in a place of doubt and fear. I get over men by sincerely praying for them and wishing them the best while remembering my Worth. I may not be somebody to them but I AM SOMEBODY to me and those that do love me. As I like to always say "I’m still Breathing, Beautiful and Blessed and that’s good enough for me”.

Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:10 PM

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Bombing at the La Quinta Inn

Sunday, January 3, 2010

 

Getting off point just for a moment but ladies tell me this does your man beg you to look at his shit masterpieces? I’m only asking because maybe it’s a normal thing for a man to do. I just know my ex-husband used to always try to pull me into the bathroom to look at his shit that was so enormous that it wrapped around the toilet bowl all the way to the top. Or he would plead with me to look at the shit so long it wouldn’t go down. It seemed like he took pride in his shits. I just thought that was gross. But keep in mind he also thought men’s farts were an aphrodisiac so I’m not surprised.

In Jan 1999 my ex-husband, kids and me left MD after visiting family and traveled across country to Phoenix, AZ. We decided to make a vacation out of it. We had two cars and the kids evenly split amongst me and my ex-husband. Can’t recall which town in Texas we were in but one night we spent the night at the La Quinta Inn. We woke up the next morning all excited because we were having fun and couldn’t wait to continue the journey on to Phoenix. The La Quinta was serving continental breakfast. We were all seated together enjoying our cereal, bagel or whatever. My ex-husband looked at me and I knew instantly what that look meant. He had to take a shit. Conveniently there was a lobby bathroom in the vicinity. In he strolled with his newspaper under his arm. A few minutes had passed and all of a sudden me and the kids smelled this horrible stench. My quick thinking knew exactly what the stench was and I ushered us out of the hotel and figured we would wait for the shit master in the cars.

About 7 more minutes had passed and he comes strolling out the La Quinta Inn with his newspaper still neatly folded under his arm walking like he was Denzel and his shit don’t stink. Of course by this time me and the kids are laughing at his nasty butt. We laughed even harder after he told us he cleared out the entire lobby. Which I might add was pretty full with guests sitting around enjoying their free continental breakfast. He said only one person was still there; this big, fat, white man who looked at him like he wanted to punch him in the face but refused to leave his cereal. He said the man was hugging his cereal close to his chest as if he was trying to keep the stench off it.

My ex-husband is the shittiest person I know. He also has the funkiest shit I ever smelled in my life. Imagine someone eating live sewer rats, and then pooping them out after they have partially decomposed in the stomach. That is my ex-husband funk. It’s out of this world.

I know exactly how that fat man felt I have wanted to punch him out on many days.

Orginally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 7:08 PM

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Fake Work Associates

Sunday, January 3, 2010

I work in corporate America and my work building happens to be a very large building with over 50+ floors and bunch of people. You can go months before running into someone and they could actually work on your floor, weird I know. I personally don’t venture out to much or too far from my office but on occasions I will go down to our food court for lunch. On really nice days or when I’m feeling inspired walk to the Sushi place or other restaurants close by.


In my work suite there are only 12 people I work in close proximity with. One of the gentlemen is really nice; we speak to each other all time, crack jokes, etc. I thought he was the coolest. Until one day while taking one of those inspirational lunches I ran into him outside the building. I looked right at him smiled and was about to speak and he lowered his head. I thought WTF. I know he just saw me. But I went into denial mode and thought it best to give him the benefit of the doubt. Besides when I saw him later that day in our suite things were good as usual.


Exactly 2 days later I went to the food court in our building for some lunch and ran into this person again. The same thing happened. That did it for me. I came to realize he wasn’t speaking on purpose. That left me thinking why is it that some people do that? No offense but its always white people that do that. It must be some unspoken belief with some white folk that you only have to deal with black people in the work setting. Once they step outside that location they are just another black person you careless to deal with. Simply acknowledging this person that you work with 5 days a week is now forbidden. I had already known that some white people do that but I just didn’t think he was one of them because our fondness for each other seems genuine. One time I ran into a white female co-worker in a bank line at the grocery store and she didn't speak either. Just goes to show you who keeps it real with you no matter the location. In regards to him, I don’t think he is so nice after all but I still deal with him in the same manner. All that means is if I should ever run into him on the streets and he is in trouble I can walk by him and pretend I don’t know him either. See it all works out in the end.

Orginally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 5:54 PM

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