Wednesday, January 13, 2010
How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart you begin to understand. There is no going back. There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep. That have taken hold (Script from Lord of the Rings: Return of the King).
Yesterday I posted the above quote on Facebook and received some comments. Most people instantly took it as I was down about something and sought to comfort me. However, the quote gives me strength and guidance (but I must admit I find it very sad). I often pull it out and read it just to snap me back into reality. I've been guilty of making excuses for men and sometimes fantasize instead of keeping it real. When dealing with heartache or disappointment it can be hard to let go of the dream or vision you presented in your own mind of what you and that man/woman could have been. Then reality kicks in and you either face what’s real or continue on with the dream. The quote helps me face what’s real and fight against the true romantic in me whispering to still believe and keep hoping.
When does that time come to completely give up hope that they may come to their senses and try to make the wrong things right? How long do you give him/her to reach out to you to show they actually give a damn about your feelings? I guess every situation is different. But, if you had a big disagreement or argument with your lover and have made attempts to try and solve the issue and more than 3 days go by without them reaching out to you than they don’t really care about the relationship or they have completely given up on you. How could you not reach out to your lover that you have feelings for knowing they could be hurting and do nothing? It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong what matters is you care enough to figure it out and set the wrong things right. If you want to believe that he/she is just too proud, has a big ego or is waiting for you to make the first move; then you are being delusional and still living in the dream and not reality. What you are doing is making excuses for their lack of sensitivity, maturity and poor communication skills. The other obvious painful reality is to accept the fact that they just wasn’t into you like you thought. Some people look for a conflict to give them a reason to turn there back and never be heard from again vs. telling you honestly they just don’t want you like that. Personally, I have abandonment issues and I’d rather be rejected than abandoned. When a lover walks away after feelings are involved without a word; that’s abandonment. I just think we deserve better than that. But, hey "Angela's Logic" could be wrong; there is always an exception to my rules?
Deal with the rejection or abandonment but don’t let it keep you in a place of doubt and fear. I get over men by sincerely praying for them and wishing them the best while remembering my Worth. I may not be somebody to them but I AM SOMEBODY to me and those that do love me. As I like to always say "I’m still Breathing, Beautiful and Blessed and that’s good enough for me”.
Yesterday I posted the above quote on Facebook and received some comments. Most people instantly took it as I was down about something and sought to comfort me. However, the quote gives me strength and guidance (but I must admit I find it very sad). I often pull it out and read it just to snap me back into reality. I've been guilty of making excuses for men and sometimes fantasize instead of keeping it real. When dealing with heartache or disappointment it can be hard to let go of the dream or vision you presented in your own mind of what you and that man/woman could have been. Then reality kicks in and you either face what’s real or continue on with the dream. The quote helps me face what’s real and fight against the true romantic in me whispering to still believe and keep hoping.
When does that time come to completely give up hope that they may come to their senses and try to make the wrong things right? How long do you give him/her to reach out to you to show they actually give a damn about your feelings? I guess every situation is different. But, if you had a big disagreement or argument with your lover and have made attempts to try and solve the issue and more than 3 days go by without them reaching out to you than they don’t really care about the relationship or they have completely given up on you. How could you not reach out to your lover that you have feelings for knowing they could be hurting and do nothing? It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong what matters is you care enough to figure it out and set the wrong things right. If you want to believe that he/she is just too proud, has a big ego or is waiting for you to make the first move; then you are being delusional and still living in the dream and not reality. What you are doing is making excuses for their lack of sensitivity, maturity and poor communication skills. The other obvious painful reality is to accept the fact that they just wasn’t into you like you thought. Some people look for a conflict to give them a reason to turn there back and never be heard from again vs. telling you honestly they just don’t want you like that. Personally, I have abandonment issues and I’d rather be rejected than abandoned. When a lover walks away after feelings are involved without a word; that’s abandonment. I just think we deserve better than that. But, hey "Angela's Logic" could be wrong; there is always an exception to my rules?
Deal with the rejection or abandonment but don’t let it keep you in a place of doubt and fear. I get over men by sincerely praying for them and wishing them the best while remembering my Worth. I may not be somebody to them but I AM SOMEBODY to me and those that do love me. As I like to always say "I’m still Breathing, Beautiful and Blessed and that’s good enough for me”.
Originally posted by Ms. Angela's Stuff at 11:10 PM
Angie's signing off for now...feel free to read me again.
Angie's signing off for now...feel free to read me again.
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